Time is the great Equaliser

Time allows trauma to be healed, relationships to mend and growth to develop.

Patience is very virtuistic when you are referencing yourself against others. It is a characteristic trait that almost anyone can obtain; once you have come to an acceptance of the states and affairs of the world relative to yourself. Time can seem like an impossible thing to comprehend when you think of it from a scientific angle. Compare yourself to a toddler who is five years old, and you have seen this toddler grow up right in front of you; their whole life happened in 5 years and yet yours is yet to be. Still, yet you are astonished at how much the toddler had changed while only faintly remember critical moments of their life, then you look back at yourself then realised that little had changed in 5 years.

This is where you understand that attempting to grasp time conceptually is so overwhelming, but yet when it is in context of others, it seems a lot more paletable. A cut on your hand from when you are cutting vegetables will seem very intense at the moment, but eventually, you forget that you had ever received one if it leaves no impressions like scars. When you use time as a spice to your recipe of life experiences, it will make things a lot more enjoyable. The moment when you say "I have not changed in 5 years", you have come to acknowledge that you have not been using the tool that was given to you, hence why you are stuck. Now for you to come to full acceptance, you must be able to extract the trauma attached to it and use the experience as a tool, completely unique to you.

Growth is measured by categorised experiences that you have learnt from previous impactful or traumatic event. A prisoner of your own mind scape is one of the realities that we live, living the YOLO life but yet to understand how the decision made would not lead you to the fullest, desired life. All of us whom are lucky enough to survive from all our traumas and have learnt from the experience, can truly say we have grown, a bit more jaded then we would like. Growing into your potential is what our loved ones wants for us and to be able to transition successfully is an amazing accomplishment. We knows ourselves best, we are the only ones who can tell ourselves that we are a great hero while also being able to convince us that we are the greatest villian. Balance will be something that you want to strive for to make the growing experience holistic.

Balance of good and bad, mix with patience, will make the growing journey whole. Growing pains are unique to each of us and they colour our perception of the world differently. Balance is a concept that has to apply individualistically. What is balance for me is not balanced for you. An opportunity is all you need, how you obtain it, is entirely up to you. As biology we are competitive to give ourselves the best chance of surviving. Due to that logic, some will make it and some won't. We can only try and do our best. Sometime the experience is worth it, some is not. A balanced approach will give the most holistic experience.

"To err is to human" but how do you know it is "err" unless you have grown pass it.